Do you lay awake at night worrying about some part of your life?
Do you feel that the world is against you and “it just isn’t fair”?
If you are like most people I know, there is one area of life that just hasn’t gone your way. It just hasn’t turned out the way you hoped and expected, and it’s keeping you up at night.
Maybe you’re still single.
Maybe you’ve been struggling financially.
Maybe there’s someone in your life that you have unresolved issues with.
Whatever it is, it is normal to be thinking about it when you’re in bed at night.
Why is this? Why is this the time that our minds go into overtime, trying to figure everything out?
It’s because this is the one time during your day when you have nothing to do.
Most of our lives are so filled with doing. We have long to-do lists, our careers to stay on top of, groceries to buy, family members to take care of, volunteer activities, working out… we are always “doing”.
Can you relate?
When you get into bed at night, this is when you get to just “be”. If your bedroom is a sanctuary away from the world, then it’s just you and your thoughts.
The question is: what do you do with your thoughts and worries when they come up?
I recommend to my sleep students that they keep a journal beside their beds.
Here is a powerful exercise to do at nighttime to help take care of your thoughts and worries.
First, write a list of what is on your mind. It’s better to just get it all out there, rather than keep it bottled up inside.
Your list might look something like:
- I don’t know the next step to take in my career
- I don’t know how, or if, I’m ever going to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right
- I don’t know what to do about that family member who I can’t seem to get along with
- I’m worried about my children’s future
- How am I going to pay off all this debt?
- How am I going to get to sleep?
Don’t hold back! Write it all down. The act of writing it down releases it from your mind to the Universe. You might have just one main concern on your list, or you might have 10. It doesn’t matter as long as you are expressing yourself. Don’t let these thoughts take up mental space before bedtime. Writing them down helps you to clear your mind.
Now, you have 3 choices for each issue on your list:
- Change the situation.
- If it’s in your power to change the situation, then write down one action step that you can do to change it. Note: this is not about devising an entire strategy to solve world hunger! This is about bringing your awareness to one action step that is within your means. By writing down the one thing you can do, your mind will find some ease. You might find yourself saying “okay good… at least now I know I’m going to do something to change the situation.”
- Leave the situation.
- If this is a situation that you don’t want to change, or it’s not within your power or means to change, then maybe the best answer is to leave the situation. You leaving the situation might be a physical act, or it might be a mental one. Take a note if you choose to leave the situation. It can be that simple.
- Surrender the situation.
- You’ve acknowledged that this is an issue for you, you’ve released it. When you surrender you can accept it for what it is. Maybe you can even see the hidden gift in the situation. Surrendering might look like saying a prayer or visualizing yourself handing over the issue into the hands of God. When you surrender, you don’t need to “do” anything. You know that’s its all perfect and in divine timing.
Isn’t it empowering to know that you have these 3 choices? You aren’t stuck. Your life doesn’t have to stay this way forever. Changing, leaving, or surrendering is within your spiritual power. Embrace this power and this knowledge.
There. You’ve now addressed what’s on your mind before bedtime. Your mind can be at ease now. You don’t need to figure it all out. You’ve made a simple choice for each of your issues. Know that you are God-guided and protected. This will help you sleep better tonight.